I would love it!! I know, it would have its "challenges", but I am not bothered by small stuff much any more--you know, having had a lot of practice in "not sweating the small stuff".lol.

Plus I am dying to just MEET PEOPLE and hear about OTHERS--my H keeping me tethered to the house for the past 6 years--I am sick of my own stories and his.lol. You would have my rapt attention.lol.

Well I haven't moved yet so I am going to just update a bit here. 2 1/2 weeks ago H and I met for mediation. It opened a dialogue between us and we have, for the most part, lost a lot of tension that was going on because of the "unknown" of how bad he would be in mediation.

He made me an offer to settle and it "seemed" pretty good at first--I really wanted it to work. But basically it is tied up money (in IRAs) and I have to pay penalties and tax. But like I said, I really wanted it to work--I don't like attorneys, trials, etc.

I have been tweaking it and getting a bit more as time went on. Also we met to set a date for temporary relief and that is set for Feb 9. H is unhappy about that and in last few days has gotten grumpy and demanded I accept or we "go to court".

Well today I got the answers I was looking for. Got a L in town that is "good with numbers" and knows my L, H's, and the judge in our case. Bottom line--it's a risky deal. He said if I can get him to "give" in a couple of areas he could see taking it. But if he doesn't, he advises that a judge would rule better for me.

The only, and I mean only, thing that scares me is if the judge makes me sell the house and split the proceeds now. The market being SOOOO terrible. But this L says that is not likely--it is much more likely we will sell in 3 1/2 years and he'd let my S live here as you can't really get rent that much cheaper. And then the market may improve, which they would take into consideration.

This L told me, off the record, that the judge we have doesn't like H's L--he has a horrible reputation and the judge knows it.lol. And he says mine is good, can hold her own, and is a "nice person". She is SO nice that I wondered if she could go against my H's who is such a sleaze bucket. But this guy says she can!

I am really relived to finally have another person's opinion!!