Am I piecing? Just can't tell...

[Sad_but_happy]

Thanks JTB, We have MC soon. I do need reassurance.

Just not sure if I sould stop being physical. She was never a physical person. In the past, if I stopped being physical she complained. I'm just torn.

Do I keep doing what I'm doing or do I stop being physical?

I know our MC is going to ask her point blank if she wants to work on our marriage since we might move and I fear this question will scare her.

She shows signs of wanting to work on it (talking of moving, sitting together, spooning) but I think verbalizing it is scary.

She far more confident because she states that she is "stronger" through personal growth and she no longer feels she "neede me" to survive.

But this feeling only came AFTER EA. She didn't grow by going to college or learning a new skill or joining a new group. Her "growth" has come from the confidence she feels from EA that she IS wanted and desired. Duh, shes a good looking woman. Its all physical. I'm not doubting that OM likes her but the chances of true love with him are slim.

I see this confidence as a fantasy created by an EA and I don't see any personal growth. Am I reading this wrong?

Anyone have any ideas on how I should proceed?