Friendship option and other Hot topics

[angel61]

I heartily agree that boundary setting has its own pace. And in some situations, may not be needed at all. Setting them or trying to set them while you still have anger in your heart, while you are not strong, will lead to your not thinking about the right things to say and approaching your spouse in the wrong way. DB'ing before boundary setting for me was the way to go.

I think, if anything, DBing buys you time and gives you patience. Time to stabilize, to calm the situation down, time to let let your spouse change his/her mind, time to let you plan your moves. And we all know that time is what heals. Its a matter of riding the situation out. Everything must come to an end, sooner or later, and that goes for affairs and life crisis, which is mostly what we see here.