Still lost but still searching

[sandi2]

I'm thinking that your W does not have many she can turn to these days. Family & friends may not be supportive in her decision to leave. She has even said enough to let you know that things aren't stable with OM. (He told her she could stay as long as she needed? Hummm, that raises a flag.)

So, I'd say that she needs you as her friend. Now, in the past I would have choked on those words....but I'm seeing something unfold in this R. If she is talking about negative things with OM, and how she's screwed up her life, etc., don't you think turning to you is a sign of her reaching out to you? I mean, if she was discussing OM's love making techniques....then that would be very inappropriate, but this girl is very unhappy and is seeing "who" is still standing after the smoke lifts. KWIM? OM is there for the good times...but who does she see still standing when everything is going down? Her husband!

I know it's got to be awful to hear some things, but after seeing her react so despartely over the FB thing.....yeah, I think she's seeing where she needs to keep that connection with you. I would even go as far to say that when she was talking about XH and the problem going away if she came back home.....might have been her toes stepping into the water. IDK, but it's something to help you hold on, isn't it?

Maybe you need to think about having her over during Christmas in a different light. Could be a wonderful opportunity.