Reading your post from this morning. Let me warn you if you haven't guessed already. This is a really long roller coaster ride. From the heights of expectation to the bowels of h@ll and desperation. When we say it does get better, it does, but it is definitely a process that can't be hurried, outlined, or scheduled. Don't be surprised if tomorrow, the ride has taken you in a new direction emotionally.

There is nothing wrong with you, you are just human. And like most of the women on this Board, we are nurturers and 'fixers'. We just can't fix this. And it's hard to let it go. Extremely hard.

Come here for your highs and lows. We will listen.

When tempted to respond to H in some dramatic way you are unsure of, think about if for awhile before acting.

Hang in there. The good days will outnumber the bad eventually, whether or not your H returns to the R.