What happens to the WAS after D?

[soleil]

he told me his Mother was still not over her D... and they had been D's for almost 20 years. It really upset him how his mom never got a life, never dated, never moved on and always talked of him as if he was still her husband....

Yeah that is no way to live. This happened to an older relative of mine. Her husband left her for another woman and she NEVER EVER EVER remarried/dated/nothing. She's well into her 70s now. She was so young when they split. Sad.

Are you in love with your wife, or the person who WAS your wife?

Exactly. I think we remember who our spouses WERE, not who they currently are and that is a hard pill to swallow but the fact is, who they were... is a ghost now. A shell of their former self. They are not that person anymore. And yu're right... if you were to get back together, the relationship is totally different with totally different dynamics.

I was just reading how all these Hollywood couples announced their divorces/splits this week. Sounds like 2010 is the year of the divorce LOL.