I don't know what he thought of the fact that I didn't make the concert. I told him over the weekend that I'm confused too and I don't know how I feel about the M since he moved out. Back to not communicating for awhile.
Oh, but I see this in a positive light,and here's why.....if you have your time filled with other things beside family, and especially him, that not only makes you less available but you appear mysterious to him.
You see, when a couple has been M for a long time, they know each other so well that there's nothing new to learn.....almost. That's why A's can be so appealing at first b/c everything is new & exciting. Anyway, you have an opportunity to be a bit mysterous......."if" you won't tell him every move you make.I love your comment about not know how you feel about the M. That's perfect! Now he will be thinking if you're losing interest.
Did you tell him "why" you didn't go to the concert? You don't have to, you know. I'm not suggesting to be rude, but you can just say your plans were changed or whatever.....just be vague. That causes interest, and it's a great 180!!
Good job! Keep going!
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
