Preparing to file, Looking for advice here!

[newmama]

Hi AMG! Like Sunforone, I moved faster in the detaching process once the divorce was filed by exH and then once it was final.

No kids? Many of us have said "if we didn't have kids, we would have pushed the divorce through." I don't know if I would have held to that or not, but I do know that my initial reaction was to divorce him when he said he wanted to be with OW (duh). However, I retracted that statement and never initiated any divorce talk. They say to wait until "you know" before doing anything.

It sounds like "you know." The other good thing is that you know that filing is just a step and doesn't mean anything else has to happen.

So how much have you GALed? How much communication have you had with your H? Are you sure he is not having an A? How long were you married/together?

I am not trying to talk you out of anything; just getting some background info.

VERY WISE to not look for a rebound guy unless you wanted to date casually with no long term potential. I couldn't do it until exH served me with D papers but I did post an online profile "just to see" about a year post separation. Not telling you to do this...just saying it happens. I notice a lot of us divorcees going through some common phases.