N, I don't have to ask how you are doing...you've said it all...I'm very happy for you! Take things slowly and see how this relationship plays out. Does he like your dog? How are your parents doing?
I don't think your xh and his so called wife are happy at all. Rubbing things in your face isn't very mature, if you ask me....
Have a wonderful holiday season and may the new year be full of happiness and peace for you!
Merry Christmas!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Well, you are right, I'm doing much better than I was a year ago at this time!!
Yes, the new guy likes dogs, in fact he has one himself but I haven't met his dog yet. I did meet one of his daughters, so far she likes me. They are not too fond of their dad dating again, they want him to take his time. I think he has only dated one person since he divorced & they really liked her until she forgot about them & left them in a mall once & was at a bar getting drunk with an ex boyfriend. That did it for her. My dog likes him, but she still tries to get between us & when we are sitting on the couch she will get in my lap. So funny, but he says not to worry that she is doing her job.
I forgot to mention before this last group of pictures I got from OW, I got an email about a month ago letting me know they had moved to Doha, how happy they were there. They were getting settled in their "lovely villa", a live in housemaid would be starting the next week, just a little family update & when they would be coming back to the states for a visit. Also how much shopping there was in Doha. She is crazy!! Oh, I also forgot to tell you that 2 weeks ago I got a phone call from ex's best friend that lives in Thailand, he is the one that said when my ex got rid of that woman that they would be friends again but not to contact him until he got rid of her. Anyway, he called to wish me a Merry Christmas & said that him & his wife wanted to keep in touch with me b/c they thought the world of me & knew I was a good person & didn't deserve to be treated like ex had treated me. Now, this is his best friend from grade school who at one time would have back him on anything but not this! That just made me feel soooo good!! He told me he had heard about her "conning" him into adopting a baby & the move to Doha (his words), he said she is not going to work & said there were lots of shopping there so she could spend all his money. That is all she is after to spend his money & he said the baby was a way for her to hang onto him forever, not that they would stay together just that they would have to be in touch now. He nailed it, I believe!! I also agree, I don't think she is very mature & I don't believe they are very happy at all! My ex looked so bad & old! Very stressed & those eyes were not happy eyes, I know him well enough to know that. A preacher friend told me once that he had some hard days ahead of him for what he had done, so these days may be here & it is showing up.
My parents are doing well, thank you for asking!! I'm going to spend 2 weeks with them at Christmas so that will be fun! New boyfriend is going to NY with his brother so I won't see him. I am having problems trying to figure out what to get him for Christmas since I haven't known him that long. Like I said before, he travels a lot & is a workaholic so that limits our time which is probably good so we are not moving too fast. He has told me he is crazy about me & that he is not going anywhere so we will see! I just want to take it slow & not rush into anything, I don't want to hurt like I did before. He is not as good about calling when he is gone & that sometimes bothers me but my ex was the the other way, he called all the time. Recently my friend told me that was not normal for ex to do that, he was actually obsessed with me & very controlling like he had to know ever move I made, so with new guy it's really different.
Thank you all so much for being here for me. I know this has been one of the most tramatic experiences I have ever been thru & I don't wish it on anyone! I do pray for all my cyber friends on here all the time & I will do my best to check in & keep in touch!!
So glad your parents are doing well!!! Have a nice visit with them!
I have to tell you a funny story about a friend of mine...she had been dating a guy for about 4mos at Christmas...she didn't know what to get him either. She had noticed that when he'd come over to get in her hot tub...he'd bring really worn and holey bath towels so she decided to get him some nice new ones....he got her a necklace and earrings!!!
Does office guy collect anything? Have a favorite sports team? I am sure you will come up with something!!! Hope you have wonderful holidays!
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I love the story about your friend getting the new guy bath towels! That is funny!!
My guy is into motorcycles, all kinds of sports, fly fishing but mostly work!! He works all the time, so he doesn't have time for anything much. I have thought about a digital picture frame, what do you think about that? He has all kinds of pictures in his office of different people, his daughters & lots of business people, I just thought he might make a picture of me or maybe we can get one made of us together & he can put that in there. I also might get him a shirt but I'm not sure about that yet either. Maybe just the digital frame.
I told him about ow sending me these emails. It made him pretty mad & then he said we should make a picture of me & him & send it to her. ha! He then suggested that I send her an email & ask her why she keeps sending me stuff, hasn't she done enough. But, I'm not doing that either. That would just make her day. I think the best thing I can do is be silent, I don't respond. New guy doesn't know the whole story of how she has been & things she has done so he doesn't quite understand the kind of person she is, EVIL!
Ok, just thought I would check in. I hope to be able to get back & catch up on some of your threads. I've been working a lot lately & haven't had time but I promise, I will!!
I think that you're doing the best thing you can do by not even acknowledging that you're getting the emails she's sending. It has to be driving her up the wall!
This woman has to be so very insecure to continue to send you this stuff. Here she is married to your XH and she stills feels very threatened by you. Lots more going on behind the scenes in that M.
I'm so glad you've met someone. Keep taking it slow and have fun!
The digital frame sounds like a nice idea!
Have a very Merry Christmas and a New Year filled with happiness!
