We never possess the power to MAKE people change their minds.
Just know this...
The end for you is when you say it is. And I do not mean that in some trite, "hope you feel better" kind of way.
Whatever your wife does, she does not control how you feel and what you choose to do with yourself or your feelings. Yes, marriages have come back from the brink of divorce to be resurrected. Others do not.
Wouldn't it suck if you gave up based upon what your wife has done, even though you still loved her and thought a future was possible, only to find out that she did this wondering if you were really being the rock or not?
And no, I'm not trying to push you into standing forever.
I'm wanting you to understand that just as you do not and cannot control her, she should not be able to control you either.
You make the decisions for you.
We all have our own breaking points. For some it is infidelity. For some it is divorce. For some it is a remarriage after a divorce. We are all different and our hearts work differently.
How do YOU feel about this woman?
What do YOU want to do with the days and weeks ahead?
I'm sorry that you've had to travel this new road. I know the feeling, as do so many others here. It's scary and sad. It feels as though a piece of you is being ripped out from inside.
I am living proof however that it does not have to destroy you.
Others here are proof that divorce does not need to be the end if you aren't ready for it to be.
What I care about is what Patience wants.
Blessings,
Bill
"Don't tell me the sky is the limit when there are footprints on the moon."
