The choice you have is whether you want to be dragged along for the ride, or do you step off and let your W ride it alone.
And.....do you know how you would be dragged? By a rope! Drop the rope! When you stopped trying to control her....it took the wind out of her sail......so??? If that is the only positive sign you've had, then I think that should be your answer as to what to do.
Love kindlers......hummmmm. Okay, I won't say this is the case with every woman, but when I was in an EA and my mind was on OM, my H could do nothing right. When he tried to rekindle the flames it went very,very wrong! I believe there is a time for rekinling, but when she's in an A.....it could be seen as pursuing.
That is why I think leaving her alone and GAL, dropping the rope.....learn to be happy with or without her, that's what works in most cases, IMHO. When you let go, you have a better chance of drawing her closer.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
