I was advised to do love kindlers so she will not want to return to OM.
Not familiar with that term. Did that come from the DB board?
The more M programs you check and message boards you're on...the more variety of advice you'll receive. There was a popular movie & book that came out that people were smitten with its techniques. However, it was so pursuing that it made DBing look like tough love!
My suggestion is to find the programs, board, book, or counselor that you feel is speaking your language and you can see yourself doing what it teaches. One thing for sure....you can't do all of them b/c they do not agree with each other.
I strongly advise you not to do anything as drastic as exposing, if you aren't sure who's advice to take.
What is your goal? What have you done thus far that showed positive results?
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
