thanks for your response. is your h still seeing ow?. How is your son is he still living with you.? I am going to order the book you recommended. I have read a lot of books on saving m but not that one yet, thanks. I know it says i joined these boards in 07 but my h was home for 2 of those yrs. unitl last Feb. Last yr was very difficult because my FIL was sick most of the yr. and died in OCT 09 I think this may have contributed to h going back to ow too. My h acted like me and son did not exist last yr. because he had to take care of his mother and father. His mother is very codependant on h. she wouldnt let us move more than a mile away from her.
