OK, what a fun Saturday, The OM Spouse found my W's email and sent her a letter addressing the A and no contact. Sent via email so she got it right away on her phone. I believe the content was on par with Marriage Builders No contact letter. She cc'd me. My w's reaction when she got home. w: can we talk me: do we need to w: yes me: ok W: I am done i want a divorce you are dealing with me I am hearing stories and dealing with OM, now OM Spouse and i cant take it I am going to have a break down. I am done I don't want to talk. I don't want to see anyone. I will get through xmass and I am done. me: calmly reminded her i still love her the kids do we want her in the house. On the stories I said what are you hearing stories about me I have been faithful to you all theses years and commited i love you and still do. Will you do one thing before you file just give it some time for our heads to settle. W: soft spoken ok fine. a little more talk she says she cannot stay here tonight. She is a wreck. Says she is going to find somplace to stay where nobody will know where she is. So she left here and OM Spouse tells me she emailed him to ask if he got in trouble. OM spouse got the email responded to her via text asking her to stop and wanted her to know that OM told OM Spouse about the email and phone call and that OM spous says she has had enough. We are rediscussing OM doing a NC letter I mentioned restraining order. And we both agree that his response to that will tell us where we stand. OM Spouse knows she cannot force him.
Sunday 7 minutes of phone contact for whole family 4 OM text.
Monday some conversation not much just reminded her i would work things out as another succesful affair survivor suggested.
After the several texts this weekend today a phone call as well. Well roller coaster, saw online that W and OM talked for about 40 min. My filters turned off I went right up and confronted her we r both home. She said I can be happy, her starting to cry that OM never wants to speak to her again so on and so forth. But her feelings were real she wont let anyone take that from her. she brought up the marriage stuff again that bothered her. Did not mention divorce or the house she wants to buy but she's mentioned that before and doesn't like to repeat. She doesn't understand how I think things could be fixed or better. All the negatives. She feels she has completly lost her soulmate and that me and the OM spouse are going to gloat over this as a victory and having won control. She says at least I have won half the battle meaning she is still leaving and I let her know I still believe in recovery. And that's the short version. Now What
H 37 WW 37 M 15 5 Children Bomb 9-27-10 W EA/Pa she filed 12-18-10
