He got a flat. I don't know if she is living with him. I suspect not from the things he has said. She is married too and has also left her husband. It's been horrendously cold recently In the uk and he has definately been missing his home comforts. I'm worried he misses those things more than me.
He keeps giving me false hope, this morning he sent me a mms saying he wished he could go for a long walk in the country with me and the dog and how much he missed it. I never replied. In the past I would say "well let's just go then??!!" but he would always refuse. Why say it in the first place? What is he trying to achieve?
He still has much of his belongings left in the house. He has been moving out little by little of the last week or two, and always when I'm not there. Presumably he expects some kind of a "scene" if I am there. If he wants out that much why doesn
His complaints were that I put everything else above him in my priorities. I agree with him in relation to the time I spent with my poorly dad, and to some extent work, which is probably enough. He also said I would always nit pick with things he did, again I can see I would do this. Some things he has said I did simply aren't true. It's luke he is trying to re-write history to fit in with his decision to leave.
Haven't read the books yet. I'll definately start soon. He keeps sending me mms saying he misses me and loves me, but always at the start or end of the day ( i.e when he's not with her) does he think I'm that stupid? I haven't replied to any of his messages over the last couple of days. Don't see the point. I want him to know I still care, but he still knows that right? He just wants to know he still has me dangling off a string.
Was reading some of courageous wife previous posts. I couldn't agree more re: not knowing why you still try and whether the guy you are trying to get back is worth it anymore. Too much pain and hurt to just forget. It's like his evil twin has kidnapped him and taken over his place. This isn't the sweet big hearted guy I married. This man has a heart of stone,
He told me today he wanted to come home to try and start sorting things out with us. I told him I only was interested if he could prove it was only me he wanted, prove that I could trust him and prove He has nothing to hide. Suprise supprise he hasn't got in touch again since.
Not replying to all his messages and "going dark" seems to be making him realise that I won't always be there for him as a fall back plan, but I'm scared i'm taking it too far. Sometimes I'm so angry at his selfishness I get angry and short in my responses to him. I try to be civil but I'm certainly not acting like a friend which I guess I should be? I just dont want to be his door mat. I try being a friend and it seems to get me nowhere. It's almost like I'm making it easier for him. I don't know.
