SBH, glad to hear that you are making progress with rebuilding your relationship. You are in a position that most of us would be thrilled to be in.
Regarding my situation, spoke to my WAW the other day and she advised that she is not talking to the OM while she decides what she is going to do. Not sure whether to believe her or not, but didn't want to push the issue. She is in the process of deciding whether to stay and work on the marriage or leave. Not sure how long this process will take, but I am guessing that she won't annouce anything until after the holidays. This is fine with me, as I wasn't going to issue the boundary notice till then anyway. A question I have is how much time and space should I give her to do this?
I have no idea where this is going to end up. I am not sure she realizes that if she decides to go, that she will have to leave the house and the kids behind. There is no way that I am going to have my kids living in a house headed up by two people who think it is ok to have an affair.
At this point I think it comes down to whether she will pick her needs over the needs of our children. In the meantime I am preparing for the worse and starting to get prepared for a new lease on life. Went to counselling yesterday to try and get my head screwed on straight. 2011 will likely be a tough year all around.
