What happens to the WAS after D?

[AtTheEnd?]

If they came back, are these spouses that you really want back at this point? I guess some do, but I think most on here have some seriously messed up ex's that they don't want ot be with anymore, even if they came crawling back on hands and knees.

In my case I would. I looked at the damage that I caused to my marriage over time and pray for her to be able to heal and find forgiveness in her heart. Yes there were hurt feelings for a while, but we are learning to communicate again. There are moments when the hurt resurfaces and we are going through with the D, but I hope that one day this can come back together without another relationship for either of us. Hopefully this is more than a pipe-dream.