Disney was a nice break - although a short one. I slept like a log every night and that is unusual for me on vacation. I think I was totally exhausted.
Ryan continues to improve. He is alert and not having any seizures. He is still not walking, though, but we are working towards that. But that presents a problem with his outings with Chuck. Today I decided it was time to deal with that.
I phoned Chuck and told him Ryan was doing better but not well enough to go out in his car (transferring him is very difficult when he won't stand). He understood this. I then told him I thought he would want to see Ryan tommorrow (his normal visitation day) and also for Christmas and I was willing to help make that happen by either letting him visit Ryan in the house or having the nurses take Ryan out to the mall or community center in his wheelchair van and Chuck could then visit him there. He asked me how comfortable I was with either scenario. (I thought that was good on his part).
I told him I was fine with him visiting Ryan in his room. There is a separate entrance through the elevator and he could call the nurse to let him in. I told him I may or may not be here. (I have no plans to visit with him or to bring him into the main living area of my house. I also told him that I was concerned with Ryan going out in this nasty weather - I didn't want him in the dampness at night especially and he agreed. And said he will be happy to visit him in the house.
This felt good. This was long overdue. It also will likely make it easier when I let him know in a couple of months that Ryan and I are moving away. I can be flexible with his visitation.
I guess after nearly 10 years of separation I am finally "getting it". Realizing that doing the right thing isn't always that hard. Although - 10 years ago - he wasn't really open to any kind of friendlieness on my party - he took that as me wanting him back.
