well zoobrew texted me and then called me last night. I almost didn't want to talk to him because I wasn't in the mood to talk--had read some depressing stuff on a thread about how LBS have difficulty trusting people again and remain numb to establishing intimacy. ALSO I had just eaten some jalapeno jelly mixed with sour cream (and chips) and my stomach was churning! But I was curious and since I do want to go out with him some time, I put in the effort.

We chatted for about 20 minutes while he was on his way to a buddy's house (who had just gotten divorced but he didn't want it). At the end he said "mind if I call you again some time?" and sounded a little like he was sticking his neck out! I said "absolutely! whenever you are available." He told me I could call him as well. Now HE is pursuing me, lol!

But this morning I decided I wanted some input into when I would see him again--I don't want him to call me at 10 p.m. and say "wanna come over?" I want to meet him and see how I feel smile

I texted him to let him know it was good talking to him but I wanted to talk in person next time and that my nights without S are Tues and Sat. (...unless I make other plans of course!)

He replied that he definitely wants to meet me for a brew since we had so much fun in the past wink and said he would be able to once things calm down. His business is booming and it is the holidays.

I felt good about establishing some boundaries in a way. I don't know how to explain it- not being "the man" and taking over, but letting him know if he wants to go out with me, there are limited times to do so. Does that make sense at all?

me,34
exH,34
S,16 months
S:3/31/09-left for OW
started DBing 10/09
d final: sometime 10/10
current:
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1
met in 2004