P.S. And I guess this gets me thinking about how to avoid this in the future - how not to let attraction and pheromones blind me, and how to find a guy who will treat me the way I deserve!
Yowzer! You were definitely keeping your head in the sand back then, FIB. I guess we all do it. I look back over my 27 year history with my ex, and even though most of those years were great - I realize now how hard I must have worked to NOT see how bad his issues were. And they were always there, from the beginning!!!
Ditto!!!
"You can't stop the waves, but you can learn to surf." Jon Kabat-Zinn
Agreed, although,it's a killer going thru ALL THOSE CARDS I SAVED. Movers coming tomorrow. Man...reading thru those cards, you'd never believe that THAT person would call the police on me 3 times.
WOW. I'm sure you all have those same cards. OUCH. Endless love...with you forever...what a wonderful husband....love grows stronger...great father.....looking forward to sex tonite.
OUCH.
Dday tomorrow. My kids were taking it hard. FIB
Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11) Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10 Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;
WHY are you looking through those things, btw?! Box them and store them if you want them for the kids. Give the box to a relative to hold onto and give to the kids when they are older, if you want.
You know when things are going to hurt.
And what does the Doc say when you tell him it hurts when you do that? Well, stop doing that!
Now, I know that tomorrow is a hurt that you can't avoid, so try to do something silly and unexpected, sometime during the day. Your kids are the perfect age to bounce right into a giggle fit without skipping a beat, and it can lighten the mood. Yes, it could be somber, serious and sad all day. Or, you can do something to change that. Up to you to choose (and yes, sometimes I just want to be sad - but it can be a choice).
Hi DF...threw them all out. 10-15lbs worth of cards. Tossed them. Hey,it's over and not sure what the kids would want to see in them.
12:45 AM. I can't do anymore. So much stuff. I made about 98% packed.
Hurts tonite. Called D7 because she was sick. Heard Cadillac man in the background and laughing. D7 cut off the phone conversation.
Alone and moving.
Stressed. Hurting even after all this time. Night all.
FIB
Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11) Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10 Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;
I get you, Frank. I know it hurts. I don't think there's anything that I can say that will make it feel better, right now. Except that it will get better.
I hope you can get some sleep. Do you have anything planned in the week coming to help you take care of you and recuperate?
I hope today is shining brighter on you my friend.
Change your focus to the endless opportunity for a new life that starts today! New surroundings, new memories to make that rely only on you and your beautiful children.
Hugs to you and best wishes!
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
there can be no growth without change and change hurts
even when you plan for it and it is joyous there are parts about it that are painful
say goodbye while saying hello is hard but it is a change...growth
look at is as something filled with possibilities instead of losses.
Donna's right have a celebration dinner with your kids take them to a restaurant and order only fancy desserts...3 each and have their drinks come in wine glasses and make up crazy toasts stop at every stop sign on your way to the new place and dancea around the car lay down an tablecloth and have an indoor picnic in the new pad....save the boxes and let them build a giant hamster run through the house let them paint their walls and get splattered and messy...splat them with paint yourself (you can always repaint before you move again) hang big posters on their new walls before bringing them there that say WELCOME HOME and let them run through them like sports stars buy window markers and let them draw on the windows talk in fake accents and walk funny throughout the house...call each other daaaaaaaahlinks and flare your nostrils everytime anyone says a certain word spread out sleeping bags and have a giant popcorn/movie/slumber party
