Positively moving forward

[awest1217]

H text me yesterday to ask about S so I answered and asked about the property agreement. He said he wants joint legal custody (I was going for sole everything) and that he wants something saying that he would get overnight visitation at a later time. I am ok with both of those, but at the same time I am a little upset because he NEVER answers my texts when S is sick or helps with S is sick or as even tried to start having S overnight. I mean I know H is going to have S possibly overnight sometime soon, but the joint legal would mean he would need to be a little more available. I guess I just want him to step it up if we are going to put joint legal on the documents. NOt that it is going to change anything. I still have sole physical custody and the legal part isn't a big deal. Otherwise he is good on everything else, but he should be because he doesn't owe me a dime.

I then asked when he would talk to my L or if he was getting one. He said he would get one so the documentation said what he wanted. I said he could just tell my L and she would write it in the way he wants. I again asked when because he cost me "a bunch" to get the subpeona since he dragged his feet. He said he would pay since it was his fault and said was like what "$20-50". I said no, I wouldn't complain about that. It has cost me $500. He then said "I can't pay that". I let him know that I didn't ask him to pay, he offered, and to just be conscience that he is wasting my money not his. Also I said a few other mean things because I am tired of his stupidity and selfishness. I said I don't understand how I have money, but he doesn't considering our difference in bills (OW and he must be paying for a place together and it is costing him a lot more than expected because she is more high maintenance than I am. Plus the rent would be higher because she has two cats). Either way I told him to just be aware and get this done. He said he would be done by the first of the year. I also put something in about how this Friday and how now it means nothing. I finally ended with that none of this was my idea and I am paying for it so the least he can do is get everything done. Happy Anniversary to H, I gave him the most expensive anniversary present this year...our D.

MIL also e-mailed me. I sent her a message about S's program and they are going to be out of town (you would think H would have told them...), but she thanked me for keeping them involved.

I am still doing well. The D will be over soon, but for the first time in a long time I just let H know exactly how I felt. I let him know that I am upset and why. I also stood my ground. I wasn't all nice and cordial like I normally am. I just told it how it is. I know it might seem mean, but sometimes it is what is necessary.