be a doormat. Thats all part of DB, but as I said, nothing wrong with that if it will bring you back your W. Fight tose feelings of dropping the rope.
I respectfully disagree. I do not think it is healthy to be a doormat. I personally do not think that is the message of DBing. Having patient, yes, but to lay down to have her feet wipped on him,no.
Anyone who has been M for any length of time knows that their S will say things and do things that hurt us. But b/c there is love in the R it doesn't become some major battle. However, if the mistreatment becomes a regular behavior....then there is an issue of lack of respect. It's my personal opinion that the WAW needs to respect her LBH before she begins to have those loving feelings toward him. But those are my opinion and I don't recall reading it in DR.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
