my h and son gave me necklace

[MrBond]

"I pray to God for his salvation."

Pray instead for yours. Rysmom, if your H is into these things now and you really don't like it, then why are you still chasing after him?

I don't think you ever answered the question of why your H would want to come back to you. I mean you concentrate so much on him and what he and the OW are doing.

Have you asked God for your salvation no matter what the outcome will be? Have you asked God for your to accept your H for who he is? If after almost 4 years you haven't accepted that he is a changed man, your situation is not going to change.

If you can't forgive him or accept how he is now, then move on and find someone who you feel fits your values. Just because someone listens to that type of music or whatever, it doesn't make them a bad person. It's your acceptance or tolerance of it all that counts. If you can't tolerate it, then take care of yourself first. Actually that's the first thing you should be doing.

You still drive by your MIL place. Release your anger and hurt to the Lord and make your life happy.