Lying and Cheating

[midlifewife]

I am getting a divorce, I do not believe in divorce and yet I dont seem to have a choice. He told me today again, to get over it, he wants to move on. why cant I accept this, why would I ever allow anyone to treat me so poorly and pray they come home to me. do you ever wonder where your self respect went. then again, if I was hateful like him I would not be able to respect myself either. I am at a loss. I can say the person he is now is not someone I want to be married to but I cant let go of the T who was my husband. He says he is taking control of his life for once and I cant control it anymore. Dont know what hes talking about. He will get his divorce as we are no fault and he will marry OW as she is a controlling calculating witch who has this all mapped out perfectly and I will have to see them at sporting events and around town, hear about her from my kids and live in some alternate universe that up until she came into our lives did not exist. We both believed in marriage and would never ever have considered divorce. How does someone just change like this. I need to quit focusing on how to save my marriage and focus on how to survive divorce, I word that I never thought I would ever use. I have no idea how to do this.