Angel I agree with everything you said, except of course I am the man. If I put my foot down like you did, I have to be prepared to give up my warm comfortible home, custody of my kids, child support/alimony, and live in my car in this freezing winter.
Unlike your H, my W wants the D asap, even though she wouldn't mind having me as roommate, just so I can play dad. But that just seems so wrong to me - definately cake eating BS.
It's a very sticky sitch, that's why I am "in a pickle." So I have that to consider.
Me 53 XW 50 M 18 Years +2 S14 D19 Bomb 10-24-10 Served 1-27-11 Mediate 4-21-11 Civil D Final 6-2-11 No church anullment "A man is not finished when he is defeated, he is finished when he quits."