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[Sad_but_happy]

Let me preface what I'm about to say with the fact that I am a very happy, easy going person. Love life and am usually up beat. I am not writing this with anger. But this issue of exposed infidelity angers me so...

I stand firm in the following belief:

That my marriage is worth saving at all costs UNLESS I feel disrespected and objectified by HER CHOOSING to do the following:

Having me...
Pay for the car that drives my W to OM (WITH ME KNOWING IT)
Pay for the computer my W uses to email OM (WITH ME KNOWING IT)
Pay for the phone my W uses to text OM (WITH ME KNOWING IT)
Pay for the phone bill my W uses to call OM (WITH ME KNOWING IT)


This is my sitch (where she stays home and I make the money). I realize that there are other sitch's where the WAS makes the money. And in those cases it is MY OPINION the LBS shout STILL ask the WAS to leave the house.

Keep in mind, I'm not saying that the LBS should give up on the M if the WAS refuses to stop the A. I'm simply saying that if the WAS refuses to give up an exposed affair, then the WAS should leave the house. That is a healthier solution for all involved INCLUDING any children.

Here is my thought process...

If my DD were to meet and marry a man, and that man started an A and kept the A going even though my DD "out’ed" him, I would ask DD to leave her H. Why you ask? That may not be what's best for her you say?

All one would need to do is look into the eyes of a LBS where their partners are carrying on an A right in front of their face and know the best course of action.

No one should live with that kind of pain. The kind where MOST PEOPLE (not all) can't work or eat or sleep.

Am I projecting me feelings toward the masses? Yup! But I wonder how many actually disagree with my feelings.

And dbmod, you DO need to think about morals in the context of DB. Without morals, there is no respect, and if I don't respect my W we are doomed anyway! So yes, I require a moral W that can make reasonable choices within a reasonable time frame. That means no cake eating on my watch!