Am I piecing? Just can't tell...

[Harrier]

I am fully aware of the possible issue looming with regard to turning elsewhere for affection. Luckily, I take the Jesse Ventura approach. I don't put myself in a position where that could happen. I don't go out to bars, etc. If I go somewhere by myself, I keep to myself. As for work, I have contact with some women at work...most are around 25. Way too young. The only other woman here my age cheated on her husband and got a divorce. Not to appealing.

Also, I do have my kids to give me some affection (not the same as a wife I know) but my little boy hugs me every day and tells me he loves me. My other son is affectionate as well.

But it's hard looking at my wife. She is looking the best she's ever looked. I just want to hug and kiss her sometimes. But I'm working on me now.

Lastly, I recognized that I had a role in this and it would do no good to "punish" her by going elsewhere for affection. If I concentrate on me, I believe it will come back to me. If not, then I will be ready to love again.

i told my wife that if we have to have a rough 6-12 months than that's okay if it will mean the next 30 years. It's a tradeoff I'd take any day.