I know I should not ask him, but how will he know the possibility is still there if I don't? Again, I know I should not do this...please just help me remember why so I can talk myself out of it.
It's the same principle as "reminding" the WAS that you love them. Every time you do that--it pushes them farther away. Your H does not need you to ask him questions he's already heard.
I can only imagine how bad it upsets you when your little boy gets excited about going to your H's house. However, I'm sure he doesn't understand why his parents are apart and daddy has a different house. Daddy probably entertains him and spends more time with him than in the past. Truth be known, "that" is why is gets happy about going.
I would feel the same way about exposing OP to my child. I have read the agony LBS's go through when this is done. Is OM living with your H? Sorry, I got behind on your thread. I'll try to catch up.
I'm not that good at talking folks down, but just remember that when your H is angry at you....for any reason.....that will keep him from reconciling sooner. Make the reconciling your big picture (if you want to save the M).
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
