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We have been together for 21 years so that "new" feeling is hard to feel.


Outside of memory loss or a brain injury, that 'new' feeling is more than likely impossible to feel again.

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So how do I combat these feelings of anger, resentment, hurt and lonliness?


It is far from easy, especailly when you are think about the whole in a new realtion I could go 4-7 times a night, why can't we do that?

How do you combat it?

You have to find a way that works for you, but I can offer a reason WHY you should.

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She IS trying



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Part of me just wants to give up and find a woman that doesn't have to TRY to love me.


SbH,

Man, if you learn anything from this whole experience, one of the more important things is:

Reltionships are work.

You don't work on it? They fail. You get complacent, you end up here again.

So trying? Trying is good, beats the hell out of not trying.

Harrier is right, it is ok to have bad days, vent here.


Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis

Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans

Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK

TRUST THE PROCESS - Cadet