Am I piecing? Just can't tell...

[Sad_but_happy]

Thanks Harrier,

Like you my sitch is better then most. My wife IS with me, and though she is not overly affectionate she does not pull away. We have tons of plans together for the holidays and do lots of things day to day. So I have it better the most.


My wife has been a stay at home mom and does not have a career that can support her (never mind her lifestyle). This is a good and bad thing;

Good because it kinda forces her to stay out with me out of fear giving me time to re-kindle our M and adjust my behavior in order to get our marriage back on track.

Bad because it completely objectifies me. Do I want someone with me because I make money? Do I want to feel like my spouse is settling out of fear?


Without sounding conceeded, I am a great catch. I can find a woman that will appreciate me and I in turn will appreciate her. I CAN be happy without her (after grieving) but I choose my family and our safe comfortable life.


I just need for this pit in my stomach to go away so I can refocus on my goal.


One last thing, we see our MC this Sunday. Do we discuss MY NEEDS at all? I know that the MC will ask, and I want to say that we both have our LL and we BOTH need to nurture and fulfill those LL as best we can.

I say this because I fear that her lack of affection toward me will start to cause my lonliness to pain and my pain into anger and my anger into indifference. And indifference is worse then hate.