After thinking about this I believe that Dbing is the approach to take. Actually it is because everything else seems to pushy and forcing results. Why should I push for something I probably don't want to hear the answers to? I have done that in the past and it was the worst thing I have ever heard. (I want a divorce). I feel like I am not really doing anything. My personality and attitude are my 180. I do not really know what else to do. Everyday seems fine. My time at home is usually playing with the kids. I am at home all the time now. I used to be gone a lot. This is part of my 180. I am afraid that maybe this might not be giving her space. It seems hard to give her space and be in the same house. I do not really want to go out and she never goes out. From the beginning she said she wanted space. I could tell she was tense around me. Later she mentioned that I was around all the time now. Well, that's part of my 180, and what I want to do. Now that time has gone by, she seems more comfortable. Is it possible that I am giving her the space she needs while being in the same house? I know I should not bring up any R talk, but it would be nice to know if she needs more space. I am very thankful we are still in the same house,but will she ever get the chance to miss me. If I go out or something I feel like I am just going back to my old self. Leaving her at home with the kids while I go have fun.
H-40 W-38 Together-20 Married-12 boy-7 girl-3 bomb-9/17/10 No papers live together No affair