wife preparing to leave me and kids

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Maybe I am mixing courses of action I was advised to do love kindlers so she will not want to return to OM. Who btw has been contacting her at least once a day for the past 3. I feel like I should expose the A at this point. She already has D papers she just has to file.
She very clearly stated saturday after being upset by A letter from Om spouse that she wants a D she has an offer on a house.
So am I suppossed to kindle expose or make her miss home. She left sat pm put herself up and spent 7 minutes on the phone between 4 people didn't call kids when driving to work I don't think she's missing anybody.
I think she has her mind made up. In my experiments I am getting a better response to my kind actions than to my cold inattentive ones.