I think it bothers Dan that the kids want you so much. Well you are their Mom and for some reason, Moms will always carry a really special place.
I don't think you need to go to games etc if it is Dan's night and vice versa. Maybe he wouldn't be so crtical if you weren't around. He is mad that you had the nerve to divorce him. He is mad that you are happy. He is mad that the kids seem to prefer you.
Maybe in a year or so you will be able to do a thing now and then together but certainly not now. I was blown away that my ex and I were actually able to go in together and get each of the girls an American Girl doll. We are going to have them open them on christmas morning before he goes to his parents with them so that we can both see their faces. It has taken us 2.5 years to get to this point(post divorce), I hope eventually you guys can too.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
