It'a All About Me

[Sanderika]

Hello all,

I have returned from the court mediation. H was not there. They asked me if he was coming and I said no. They wanted to know if I knew why I said he was working out of state. They asked me if I knew if he knew of the appointment I said yes.

They insisted on calling him to verify all this information and he answered and verified everything I had said.

They decided not to hold him in default due to absence. H has been let off the hook three times now due to his "no show" status.

Basically they signed of on mediation altogether in this case and decided that the next course of action would be final hearing. This they did without any input from me. H's absence and apparent lack of attention concerning this case is what made up their minds to move it forward without tying up the courts any further.

After mediation was denied further, I had to go before the Judge for something called a status conference. The judge asked where H was and we told her. She signed the order that the final hearing be schedule asap and then followed through with a statement which she signed that will go to H about the demand for child and spousal support.

So H was not held in default three times for absence:
Initial appearance: 11/5/10
Mediation: 12/13/10
Status Conference: 12/13/10

H brought this on and has done nothing to follow through. What am I supposed to do. Now with the court's stance I could be divorced inside of 60 days.

I need to take your advice and get him to see me more and communicate with me more. I am planning a call to him tonight to discuss today and see how is day was. I have to scramble now or I will run out of time.

Son just got home from school, I promised him I would take him shopping for a Christmas gift for his girlfriend.

I will be back later to chat....

Thank you,

Sanderika