What was used to glue those pieces together? If it's too personal or long, don't feel that you have to answer.
You said something about OM keeping her on a string and not committing, and it caused me to think back to when I began to get my eyes open. I was told by the DB members that OM just wanted to push the EA to PA and he didn't care if it broke up my family to do it. They told me how he would carefully "word" things so that I couldn't say that he had promised any thing permanent. I started taking notice and discovered they were correct.
I remember the first time it really hit me hard. I had held back from moving out b/c I could not afford the expense on my own. He had told me he would help. I didn't want that, but it got bad enough that I was ready. So, when I told him that I needed some idea of what he could do toward expenses, then I was in for a let-down. It was such an "insult" to me. It was bad enough that I had reach that point of feeling like I was going to be a "kept woman", but when he told me the amount...that was almost brutal to me. When he saw me pulling out, then he said not to throw in the towell that he could do more. But...I had seen that side of him and it was the beginning of the tarnishing.
That's why I feel that if pressure is put on OM, he may do some back peddling.
Have you agreed to helping your W with any finances if she moves out?
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
