Hope it's not too late

[ScaredinCanada]

well then i can just assume everyone thinks i did that perfectly lol

I was pretty sure before I even read it that it was horribly wrong. Then I read it and it was worse than what I thought! Not trying to put you down, because I'm going through the exact same thing.
The only way to deal with it is to stop telling them how you feel. You need to detach, find a way to be happy and content without them, then if we are lucky they may find their way back.
I keep doing the same thing. Yesterday me and W got into R talk and it just spiralled out of control as I got more and more emotional. She says she "cares" and only wants me to be happy. She doesn't have any ill will towards me she simply "doesn't love me anymore and she can't change how she feels". She has agreed to do counselling, and she's told me there isn't anyone else.

I was working on detaching, but because we live together still and we have 3 young children we still spend a lot of time together. I'm recommiting to detaching and reading DR book.

Just like some many other people on this board, we are going through this together. It's not easy - but what other options do we have?

Good luck and try and stay strong and positive.