How does one know when the MLC spouse is sincere about working it out and being trust worthy again? They seem to repeat the pattern over & over again. Who could ever trust them? And why would you when they have cheated and lied over & over again ?
As far as whether or not you should trust your H, I agree with Twink also. Protect yourself first. If you see a pattern that keeps coming up and you don’t think anything has changed, then pull back. It may not fix it, but it will give you time to look at what has happened. Perspectives change dramatically once you get some emotional distance. That takes time and work, and you can’t really just decide to make it happen. When the anger faded to the background; that was when I knew I was ‘really’ detaching from my H. At that point EVERYTHING started to look different.
