I'm really happy you have a good marriage, not matter what it took for you to do so. A lot of the advice by that same group has been detrimental to marriages, and there have been a lot of complaints. We promote what we know to have had the best success. Everyone should go where the materials and advice works for them.
The timing in DR is a modification that Michele made to mention that it can just take some folks much longer than a month to fully reconcile when there are extensive factors involved (eg, long-term infidelity, MLC, depression, etc.). Then she expounded on those extensive factors. You might like the book.
