In the spirit of friendship, I'd like yo uto really visit personally how that sounds.
None of 'the vets' are professional therapists with a long-time practice, none of you have been trained by Michele. And besides a long-term marriage, that's the expert requirement for expert here.
Then people need to go read what the other professionals who are experts in the profession say about it. That would be wise. It's not's my opinion that I advocate.
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.