Reconcilliation is not possible if your S is embroiled in an affair.
This has been discussed by the vets and agreed upon yet it goes against what the DB mods will tolerate. It's a no-brainer and yet DB doesn't address it. Seems even you agree now. What gives?
That is KentS quote and his opinion.
I agree on a personal level that it isn't a desired state. People do it though. And it doesn't necessarily cause the downfall of the marriage.
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This has been discussed by the vets and agreed upon yet it goes against what the DB mods will tolerate.
I'm sure you mean a certain group of folks and yet it doesn't represent the whole of the community over time. Certain folks here have advocated it, added pressure to it, and created a climate around this advice. And even the way you stated it demonstrates that.
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'The vets have agreed to it'
In the spirit of friendship, I'd like yo uto really visit personally how that sounds.
None of 'the vets' are professional therapists with a long-time practice, none of you have been trained by Michele. And besides a long-term marriage, that's the expert requirement for expert here.
This core group of folks is not the gold standard.
