Honey, these OW are a piece of work and definitely living in their own reality as is T. The stories they tell the ow are beyond anything we could imagine, and it's because they make them up to justify their actions. It is not about you. Repeat after me--it's not about you. Do not communicate with her at all. They live in a reality that you do not. Never question what you had. She may have tried to take it, but he is the one who gave it away and that is what makes it so sad. Stay strong. Wonder