With all due respect dbmod, Sinclair is not in LRT because a firm boundary has not been enforced.
Boundaries have nothing to do with the LRT. Boundary setting is actually the AFTER the LRT.
We ALL want our marriages to work. But it is absolutely crazy to think that one should continue acting "as if" when your spouse is having relations with another.
Not true. You always act as if. It's just whether or not you are choosing your act as if behavior or if it's choosing you. Are you assuming the worst and therefore creating the worst or are you assuming the best and therefore creating the best?
Maybe I'm to much of a traditionalist but my W can't see me and OM.
She can however CHOOSE to stop seeing OM and work on our marriage.
If that's too much to ask of W then so be it...
That is absolutely fine--because that's YOUR MARRIAGE. You have no clue whether someone else is willing to wait, to see their spouse, to date them, to live with them, whatever. IN THEIR OWN MARRIAGE.
There are two things at play here: what someone is/isn't willing to do and what will or not bring more love in their marriage.
Our goal here is to brainstorm the second part only, not give him should or should nots for what he can take or should not take.
