Been catching up on your still kinda of new sitch. 11/24 was your first posting. You have had some ups and downs which is normal.
In your first post you said:
Originally Posted By: sinclair
This prompted a discussion regarding my boundaries: that I could not date her if she was dating OM and that her dishonesty was harming our friendship.
Has this boundary/sitch changed? DB is about doing what works. Yes? Has this boundary been enforced consistently? Has she contacted OM? I would also caution you that many have had false R of the M and promised no contact of OP. Not trying to rain on you but we all wanted to R so badly that there are times I needed to take off the rose colored glasses.
Someone once told me that you need to believe 0% of what they say and only 50% of what actions you see. It worked for me and may work for you.
A few final thoughts:
Marriage is about two people being in a committed R. Always remember that you can only change you. Relationships take work and now you are willing to work. Reconciliation can take time. (years if you read some stories here) Proceed slowly I know that you can achieve your goals. (with hard work) A wise man knows his limits. GAL Engage what is working and not what doesn't.
Remember that you are your #1 advocate.
My thoughts are with you,
will
"The first step in the acquisition of wisdom is silence, the second listening, the third memory, the fourth practice, the fifth teaching others." Solomon Ibn Gabriol
