Alright, I'm going to lay this out so some of you will get off my fu#@ing back.
I live in a no fault state and we've been vested in each other for over ten years. That pretty much means, she gets the home, custody and half my money and I get to live in my car, okay?
She wants to do the D ASAP, and I have to stall until such time as this infatuation with freedom and OM fizzle out. I want to live with and take care of my kids, I don't want freakin' visitation, okay!
Right now she's a conflicted, guilty feeling, stubborn, vindictive and confused person trying to justify her plans. My goal is to not only throw a wrench into those plans, but to show her things can be better in the M than she expects. For that I need time. In that frame, she'll either come around or decide not to.
This has nothing to do with my personal ego, self respect, cake eating, boundaries or any of that other crap. I'm trying to re-establish a connection here, capiche? Gimne a fu#@ing break!
You sound like your brains are intact and you still have a lot of fight left in you.
Well you can always spend some time and figure out how you are going to blow her fantasy of this affair out. Destroying the affair has always been productive in these situations.
One thing is for sure, is your likely not to "verbally convince" her of anythings. Actions and repurcussions however can sting enough to communicate effectively.
I will put out another tidbit. Its funny how some things in the Universe work. Everytime a female would come sniffing around or showing interest in me, the Wayward Wife would subcounciously try to reel me in, doing things she hadn't done in years to try to do it.
You also have to GAL anyway. If you have been neglecting your own needs due to the affair, start doing things for yourself again. Plan days for yourself where you are getting things done and also having an interesting life.
Good luck on it, you have good motive, you still have your brains intact and alot of fight left in you.
