I look at it like this. Would I really let any "friend" treat me with such little regard? Heck no. Why should it be different here? She is not even treating you like a friend. You are just using that label (maybe she suggested it) with no real meaning. I'd tell her that she is not your friend and wont be. I know it's easy for me to say though.
Harrier,
This isn't what we do here. We encourage each other to bring more love into our marriages. We use Michele's techniques, and we brainstorm with each other ways to change our behavior in order to affect change in our partners. If you really do it, it really works. If all you do is lay down the law, MOST folks will push their partners away. Again, that is not the goal here.
