WAW The cold & cruel truth 2

[BeingMe]

I'm new to your thread, so don't know the whole story. But, from your last post, it seems to me you've been pursuing your W for 3 years. It hasn't worked, so time to stop and rethink your options.

1. Change doesn't mean lose yourself. It means bettering yourself.
2. If something isn't working, stop doing it.
3. When the bomb was dropped, what did she say? Where did you go wrong in the M, in her opinion. Where did you got wrong, in your opinion. The truth lies somewhere between. Re-visit those words, and see if there is anything you can glean from them that you can change now without losing yourself.
4. Set boundaries as to how you will be treated. If she insults you, tell her that you are done with her bad behaviour, and won't tolerate it. Walk away.
5. If she threatens, call her bluff, but mean what you say. For instance, if she says she'll leave if you don't do something, then tell her not to let the door hit her on the way out. Or, words to that effect. Don't be the doormat that she tramps on as she comes and goes as she pleases.
6. Don't say "I love you" anymore.
7. GAL of your own.
8. Get a positive attitude.
9. Do not get into a confrontational argument or fight.
10. Check for baby steps every couple of weeks. If nothing happens, then perhaps she needs the LRT.

Hope she comes around. I will try and read the rest of your sitch this afternoon.

Take care.