Had a thought about what led to the marriage falling apart. Feel very sure that my depression was the main factor. Neither of us understood what I was dealing with. Neither of us knew how to handle it. I wish so much that I had the understanding years ago that I have now. I wish I could educate H about the depression and how it impacted me, as if it would make a difference.
Maybe in the future -- closer to a reconciliation it would be helpful. Of course, that conversation may push him away right now.
