When a WAS refuses to stop an exposed A, the ONLY OPTION as I see it is to go dark, GAL, and move on... Only then will a WAS realize that THEIR OPTIONS are lessening.
If Sinclair DOES move on two things will happen as I see it.
1. His WAW will see that as time passes and Sinclair is moving on, possible seeing other people and REALLY enjoying life, she will be hit with a 2x4 and will want to re-commit herself to the marriage.
2. His WAW will stay with OM and Sinclair WILL continue to heal by GAL, meeting other people (maybe even the new woman of his dreams) and continue to heal.
I understand that saving the M is always the best option. But this is costing his health, dignity and self-respect.
He does not have to say it dbmod, it just is. When your W comes home Sunday morning after a night of sex with OM and you are there waiting with open arms, that is the definition of no self-respect. And there is NO WAY that she respects him...
M: 42 - W: 41 - M: 18 - T: 23 - D:16 S:14 EA - July 2010 NC w/EA - Nov 2010 Piecing - Jan 2011 I ask for div - Jan 2012 Div papers filed - Mar 2012 I move out - July 2012 Divorce final - Nov 7, 2012
