I don't think he says it has cost him self-respect...I don't see it here. I think he's a man who is weighing intelligent decisions.
You do have lots of options. And it appeared that your decision was to date her now and then and go full swing when she was ready to commit.
Why not just be less available. Reduce the frequency of seeing her. If you're seeing her all week, why not limit it to once a week or once every two weeks. Let her miss you.
You are not limited. You can try something for awhile and see how it goes. That is DBing. Experiment, monitor results. Adjust accordingly.
The most important thing is when you ARE with her, what are you doing and saying? Are yoy having fun? Would that be HER answer?
