I'm sorry you find yourself in this situation Sinclair. I can see how painful this is for you and how conflicted you are. Unfortunately, the reality is that what you are describing is actually an open marriage. Some people find those kind of relationships satisfying. It doesn't sound like you do. I would suggest you be very, very honest with yourself. When you say:
Originally Posted By: sinclair
If I were stronger (more of a man) I'd move on; maybe I'd gain her respect. I don't know, but I can't do it. I enjoy her company too much; I want her in my life. Perhaps I'm showing weakness and I run the risk of losing her respect, but the alternative is too painful. I suppose that I've chosen to accept my fate
it is clear tolerating the current situation has already cost you considerable self-respect. I don't know what's best for you and your marriage but I do think you need to recognize the situation for what it is, assess the true cost of chosing to accept behavior that appears to violate your values and then formulate a realistic plan.
